THE REAL SECRET TO HAPPINESS
“Most people think happiness is about gaining something, but it’s not. It’s all about getting rid of the darkness you accumulate.”
— Carolyn Crane
Ah, I love this quote. People talk about the pursuit of happiness, but you can't really chase happiness. It's not something outside of yourself; it's an inside job. If you try to chase the fleeting highs that purchases or travel give you, then you've got a long way ahead.
In fact, happiness is your baseline. It's something to get back to. It is something that already exists within you. It has always been there, but we bury it with memories of negative experiences, negative self-talk, judgement, hatred, grudges; accumulated darkness. Just look at a newborn baby. Yes, it will cry when it is hungry or when it needs touch, but when those basic needs are met it is content.
You won't experience any long lasting happiness unless you deal with your darkness, unless you face it. You'll soon realize that it isn't nearly as daunting as it has made itself out to be.
Happiness in the end is an attitude. It is something that can be sparked without any external impulse. It is a choice. You don't need to be standing on top Mount Everest to experience a deep sense of happiness. You just have to breathe and connect to yourself. Deeply. You are alive, what else do you need?
I've been following Ralph Smart on youtube for a while and he has this rad saying:
Lose your mind and come to your senses.
And that my fellow earthlings, is your secret recipe to happiness. Get out of your head. Half of the scenarios you are imagining are either past or fictive. Come back into your body; into your senses. This is the premise of meditation. Letting go of the nonsense chit chat in your head and fully experiencing this exact moment. Because there's no moment like this one. Or this one. ;)
... or this one...
So lose your mind once in a while.